Teenagers, Free to a good home

Perfected in the art of parental manipulation, temper tandems and hormonal warfare.

Will guarantee they will cause chaos at least twice a day.

Both are completely house-trained but refuse to accept it.

Will provide wardrobes but they do prefer to use the floor.

 Sisterly love is there but stays hidden for at least 16 hours of the day (the other 8 they are asleep).

Both eat well but will complain that there is never any food in the cupboards. Translated this means “no food I fancy or that doesn’t need cooking”.

They do both suffer with confusion as they often think they live in a hotel.

The two are willing receivers of cuddles but if they are offering hugs be prepared for the following “can I or I wants”.

On a serious not regardless of all the above , which I am told is the normal for teenagers they are incredible girls and I am blessed to be their mom, but truthfully SOMEDAYS.

I honestly thought the toddler years were hard, but nothing has prepared me for the battlefields of the teenage years.

I’m tired exhausted frustrated and that’s usually before they have left for school.


At the moment I am surviving on coffee and humour and of course the fact that I love them with all my heart.

But a teenage free retreat sounds BLISSFUL right now.


Wiped Out

I have to confess I am completely exhausted. Last week started with my foster son coming down with a cold which he shared in his sweet loving and kind manner with me.

It wiped the floor with me, my loving immune system did its usual thing and lay back and left me open and vulnerable. Most of the half term holiday was spent with me lying in bed dosed up on hot tea and painkillers.

To be honest I haven’t felt that ill in a long time and I really don’t like it. It left me feeling so out of it and lost from normal family life. I hated it, I like to know whats going on and what people are up to, but last week I lost days not just hours too exhausted sleep. I was actually too tired to read, not heard off.

Anyway, I am free from the flu now (hopefully) just left with an extreme amount of joint pain and still completely exhausted. I’m finding myself needing to rest after say about an hour of normal life. NOT GOOD.

I don’t normally allow my illness to effect my life, I take the pain killers and carry on ignoring all the Doctors tips on pacing myself. Yet sometimes my body becomes my own worst enemy and betrays me.

So I guess the next few weeks life has to take a slower pace (someone please inform my children). I’m only going to do what needs to be done, the rest can be rearranged or missed. It’s going to be a strange concept for me but hey ho needs must right.

Do you struggle to let yourself heal? Ignore doctors advice when he says rest.

I’m terrible, I use the general statement of “moms don’t have time to rest”. Yet last week my husband informed me that “moms actually do need rest and are not immune from illness”. Smart butt, not nice picking on the sick woman lying in bed.

But he is right (don’t tell him), as parents we do need to look after ourselves. Our children depend on us and we are no good to them ill and exhausted.

So a new philosophy for me, I’m actually going to start trying to look after myself better. Attempting to get the recommended amount of sleep and also I am going to start taking  a daily vitamin. Maybe I will see a difference maybe I wont but it doesn’t hurt to try.

All moms need some TLC at times, let me know if you decide to look after yourself a little more, maybe we can start a TLC moms campaign.


Keep your motor safe – a guide for maximum protection

You’ve heard me joke numerous times about feeling like a taxi for our children; the truth is at times this is true. The family car plays a major part in our life. 5am starts for ice skating, motorway miles for competitions and that’s before you add the usual school runs and youth groups to the mix.

I couldn’t imagine trying to survive without our car it is rather important to me especially as my illness can leave it hard for me to walk any great distance.

So when Sainsbury’s  Finance offered us a chance to share their advice on Car protection I willingly agreed to do so.



Keep your motor safe – a guide for maximum protection


Treating your car to a wash, rinse and polish can fill you with pride and satisfaction, but there are many other ways in which you can care for your vehicle. There are a number of steps you can take to improve your chances of trouble-free motoring; giving you the peace of mind that you’re doing all you can to protect your pride and joy.


Happy car, happy driver


Simple, regular maintenance of your car, such as checking oil and tyre pressure, can reduce the chances of a costly problem further down the line.


Get into a routine of carrying out regular simple checks across your vehicle.


Under the bonnet you should be checking oil, coolant, brake fluid, power steering fluid and washer fluid, topping up and/or replacing as necessary.


Outside of the car, check your tyres for air pressure and wear. Monitor wipers for damage and get any chips in the windscreen treated. Also check all your lights are in full working order, replacing bulbs if necessary.


With all these checks, consult your car’s manual for guidance, or speak to a mechanic if you need further assistance.


Preventing problems


Having your car damaged on purpose can cause a lot of upset and anger, so remember some simple rules on reducing the chances of vandalism: park your car in busy, well-lit areas. Keep your wing mirrors folded in and aerials down to avoid tempting vandals.


Car theft can cause even more stress and frustration, so it’s important not to make it easy for thieves by leaving your keys in the ignition or in a place where they can be easily stolen. (Likewise, don’t leave valuable items in your car.)


Car insurance


No matter how much you care for your car or take steps to prevent it being damaged or stolen, you need adequate car insurance cover  if anything goes wrong.


Consider a good car insurance policy as part of your overall care of your vehicle, and try to strike a balance between cost and getting a good selection of features and extras you might need if you have to make a claim.


Even if you don’t have any problems, the insurance can give you peace of mind, along with all the work you put into looking after your vehicle.


Thank you Sainsbury’s for your advice, I have certainly taken on board (no pun intended) a lot of it.